London turned 7 years old back on March 10th and I wanted to write a post about the dreams and aspirations I had for and what I was hoping to accomplish as a parent. Although I had a lot of great ideas and thoughts turning in my head, I never could get them on paper. I wanted to get it perfect but in doing so I came up with nothing, when I should have realized that when it comes to showing your love imperfection would have been better.
I started to read The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and Build Lifelong Resilience by Dr.Martin Selgiman and he addresses how we are experiencing an epidemic of pessimism and hence depression, even in our children, which needs to be addressed. In doing so he reminds us of ultimately what we want for our children and that is ultimately a life of success, physical and mental – overall well-being. I have slightly modified his words to address what I am aspiring for my daughter.
- I want more for my daughter than simply a healthy body.
- I want my child to have a life filled with friendship and love and high deeds.
- I want her to be eager to learn and be willing to confront challenges.
- I want my daughter to be grateful for what she receives from us, but to be proud of her own accomplishments.
- I want her to grow up with confidence in the future, a love of adventure, a sense of justice, and courage enough to act on that sense of justice.
- I want her to be resilient in the face of setbacks and failures that growing up always brings.
- And when the time comes, if she wants children I want her to be a good parent.
- Our fondest hope is that the quality of her life will be better than our own, and our inmost prayer is that she will have all of our strengths and few of our weaknesses.
My ultimate goal is to parent London in whatever way is need to promote resilience and a lifetime of optimism and well-being, where she can truly overcome and setbacks or challenges.