A Waffly Wedded Start

You can’t help but smile and laugh at this video.


Opportunities increase as they are taken – Sun Tzu

Happy PocketDavid Cameron Gikandi’s book A Happy Pocket Full of Money is as his subtitle suggests about how to generate infinite wealth and abundance in the Here and Now using the laws of the Universe.   I am not finished the book yet but one chapter totally caught my attention and in some ways I wish the author would have started with it first and then worked backwards.

Most of  Gikandi’s earlier chapters cover familiar principles that I have heard from many other authors covering Law of Attraction concepts until I hit the chapter titled Acting: That which Receives and that is when a light bulb went off – I finally get all this stuff.  Now what I am going to say next will most likely only make sense to those that already understand the general concept of Thoughts become Things.  In this chapter, Gikandi makes it clear that actions are the last component of the creation (thought) processes.  He begins to outline a hierarchy based on our relationship with the Universe that starts with the Self, then the Spirit, your Being, your Thoughts/Mind/Words and then Actions. Actions are very necessary and important but they come at the end as a result of putting out what you want to Receive.

Right now I am doing a lot of work in Change Management and I use this model called ADKAR developed by Prosci that describes 5 elements that define the building blocks for successful change.   ADKAR represents Awareness, Desire, Knowledge, Ability and Reinforcement.  In my mind these last two elements equate to Action and in order to produce successful change you need all the earlier elements in place; otherwise, the change will either miss the full objectives or even fail. Similarly if you don’t fully understand and thus leverage your Being, your Thoughts and Words, you will not be as successful as you can be for you will ultimately be at the mercy of how the Universe interprets your created messages, whether they were intended or not.

There is no question that most of us have been living in a state of ignorance (focusing on the visible and physical world) or not truly understanding the interrelationship between thoughts, things and actions. Either way it really comes down to not knowing that there was even a different way to approach life. It baffles me why this information is so readily available but minimally embraces by the masses.  The ripples have started though.

As stated Action is very important and necessary but the role of Action is very different than what what most of us believes it does.   Essentially Action’s role is to Receive what you have already created through your Thoughts and not the other way around.  For example happy conditions arise because you are happy, not the other way around.  This concept is not new but walking through the connection within this greater framework makes it sink in on how things really work.  The author further states that action just helps your mind do the thing your mind has already decided – how you are going to experience the action, whether positively, negatively, fearfully, joyfully, etc.  The biggest a’ha moment for me is truly understanding that everything vibrates including our thoughts and it is through this vibration that we harmonize with others and attract the appropriate experiences to ourselves, good, bad or indifferent. This information is powerful!

Letter to myself – Positive Affirmation


Hi everyone, it has been a couple of years since we have moved to Calgary and I wanted to update you on what we have been up to.

Both Mike and I have fulfilling jobs where we can work from home part-time and have some great flexibility in our hours.  The house we are living  in is working out really well despite having to make compromises on what we were originally looking for.  Most importantly it accommodates all of our needs, especially those of being able to support Reilly.

London has built up a great set of friends with lots of play dates. She is also thriving at school and is involved in lots of extra curricular activities. Her favourite sports are still soccer and hockey, although she keeps threatening on becoming a professional rock climber.  Reilly is also enjoying her new class and loves to interact with all her classmates in and outside of school.   Her walking has improved greatly and we can participate in a lot of different activities with her. One of her favourite places is the Calgary Science Centre.  We have also started new communication strategies that has really opened a lot of doors in giving her the ability to choose different things and communicate more of her needs and wants.

As mentioned, we love to entertain and have even had quite a few of our dear friends from back home come out for a vacation. It has been a great experience to be able to show them the sights of the area, especially the  mountains which we can practically see from our back door. Given this environment and despite the cold winters, we spend a lot of time outdoors as a family – biking, running, skiing downhill and cross country, and lots of walking around.

Mike plays in a weekly men’s hockey league. Now that he is over 40 I think I can safely call it the older timer league and I can still be found lacing up my shoes and entering  into all the local running events. I also have an active yoga practice and even get Mike out to a class here and there.

Given how close we are to local transit and the flexibility we have with our schedules we have managed to go down to one car and one that accommodates Reilly’s wheelchair.  In the warmer months you can find ourselves enjoying various campsites and attractions both within Alberta and in BC.

I look forward to continuing to stay in touch with everyone and look forward to our future updates and visits with each other.


Juliana & family

Winter Fireworks

One week ago tonight we attended our first Winter fireworks event.  We were at my parent’s place visiting for the Family Day long weekend, an annual tradition. This weekend the area was part of the Frontenac Heritage festival that organized tours of historic buildings and lot of different activities for the family, including a polar dip event. I debated on participating but didn’t sign up in advance and on the morning of when I saw that it was -20 degrees celcius without accounting for the wind, I easily reconsidered. Apparently there were 39 crazy dippers who still braved the icy waters.

As part of the celebrations, my parent’s small community put on an amazing Fireworks event. Given that it is winter, it had an early starting time of 7.00 pm and still very cold out.  We bundled up and headed out to the event.  It was hilarious to hear London refer to this being her first time in person seeing Fireworks beyond the ipad, for we have a Fireworks app on the ipad for Reilly to use. It is actually a great app in that wherever you touch the screen, some pretty good graphical fireworks appear and given that Reilly does not have fine motor skills she can easily create the cause and effect of the fireworks. Good old technology.

The one regret of the night was that we didn’t take pictures of ourselves all bundled up with snow all around watching them.  It truly was a neat experience for up to this point I have only seen Fireworks in the summer months.  Here are just a couple of photos my other half took:

Fireworks view through the Trees. Frontenac Heritage Fireworks.

Fireworks view through the Trees. Frontenac Heritage Fireworks.

Frontenac Heritage Fireworks.

Frontenac Heritage Fireworks.

Frontenac Heritage Fireworks.

Frontenac Heritage Fireworks.

Frontenac Heritage Fireworks.

Frontenac Heritage Fireworks.

When God was a Rabbit


I hadn’t heard about Sarah Winman’s When God was a Rabbit novel until it was given to me by a friend along with quite a few other titles and chose it from the rest, merely by its intriguing title.   I am one who hates overly descriptive books and often when I come across a section within the book that is taking a pause to describe every single detail of a landscape or setting with no bearing to the plot I will often skip right over the section out of boredom or disinterest, so needless to say I find it hard to write reviews but it is this very reason I am forcing myself to do this.

Within this one book, Sarah managed to weave in an array of events, relationships, and character profiles that only motivated the reader to continue effortlessly following the paths of all involved.  I don’t want to give anything away but the wanna-be psychologist inside of me always finds it fascinating how certain events in our lives, however young, can really cement our future path and create such a block  or opportunity for personal growth.  In Sarah’s book it was fascinating to read about all the relationships she examines through Elly, the main character of the book, and despite Elly’s ability to connect with so many interesting people there is one type of relationship that is truly absent from her life. An issue stemming from her childhood that gets examines only peripherally but explains so much and yet so little.

There was one passage in particular that stood out for me:

‘Do you believe in God, Arthur?’ I said, eating the last piece of sponge.

“Do I believe in an old man in the clouds with a white beard judging us mortals with a moral code from one to ten? Good Lord no, my sweet Elly, I do not! I would have been cast out from this life years ago with my tatty history. Do I believe in a mystery; the unexplained phenomenon tha tis life itself? The greater something that gives illuminates inconsequence in our lives; that gives us something to strive for as well as the humility to brush ourselves down and start all over again? Then yes, I do. It is the source of art, of beauty, of love, and proffers the ultimate goodness to mankind. That to me is God. That to me is live. That is what I believe in.’ p.122

The Dream of Life

Last November, I attended Mike Dooley’s Playing the  Matrix program at Kripalu. For those that don’t know anything about Mike Dooley, he is a big proponent of the concept Law of Attraction, where your ‘Thoughts become Things’. He is featured in the book ‘The Secret’ and has developed his own program to teach others how to manifest what you want in your life.

During the program breaks people were lined up to get Mike’s autograph and to take their photo with him.   I was trying not to judge them especially those ladies that were acting like school kids with a crush on a boy in their class and all vying for his attention.  As a result I felt silly to participate in the process and also started to make up excuses that I wasn’t made up (did a yoga class just prior to the last day of the program) but there was a little voice that kept telling me to step out of my comfort zone. I was here to learn more about how to lead a more fulfilling life and in doing so recognized that I would need to change some of my thought patterns and this one small act of taking a photo of Mike would be a reminder of the weekend and what it all represents. So here it is…

Mike Dooley and me (Juliana). Playing the Matrix at Kripalu, Nov 2012

Mike Dooley and me (Juliana). Playing the Matrix at Kripalu, Nov 2012

Having said that not everyone who lined up were part of this crazed fan club of his but sincere individuals looking to further enrich their life.  There is no question that this program energized me and I learned so much about myself and where I want to go and how to go about it but truthfully it feels as soon as I got back I got caught up in the middle of a tornado and only today can I stick out a leg and maybe part of an arm to reach for the other side that I want to be on.

In going through some notes I took during my time there I would like to share the following points:

  1. Define what you want in terms of the End Result.
  2. Take Action (you can’t simply sit on the couch passively and expect the Universe to deliver)
  3. Miracles of progress are usually invisible
  4. We must not insist on the specific details, how’s or people that might be involved in getting us to the End Result.
* The end result, in mind, forces the physical details – thoughts force circumstances, predisposing you to life’s so called accidents, coincidences and serendipities.
Here are some more interesting rules for playing the “Matrix”:
  1. Be self-serving – you can’t play the Matrix for others
  2. Ideally each furthers the journey and are not only the destination
  3. End results should make sense and feel good
  4. Should not depend on specific people or timelines
  5. Should usually not be the how other dreams will come true
  6. Keep them general

Random notes that are worth mentioning:

  • detach from the details – always leave the door open for something even better.
  • Do not insist upon the path, the players, or the details but upon the overall change you wish to experience which will summon the ideal path, players and details for you
  • The details are visualized to get you excited about the end results not to be the end results
  • There’s alway more than one right answer, path, possibility, nuance or answer
  • When you insist on the details, you exclude a virtually infinite number of better posssibilities
  • The more general your end results, the faster and easier they will manifest
  • Need to knock on many doors to give divine intervention more opportunities to connect with you